Rejection is no picnic.
When submitting work or applying to a position, no one likes being told: “No thank you” or “We’re going in a different direction”.
It can be quite a brutal experience.
In the editing/writing/blogging/content creating world, this is something we all go through at some time or another.
Recently, there were tons and tons of book pitches tweeted all over Twitter for #pitmad. Authors were hoping to be seen and “liked” by agents interested in signing them and/or in publishing their work.
I saw some authors that were successful–bravo!–but many were inevitably disheartened when there were no agent “likes” or agent interactions. Or, further still, an agent did reach out, but then after seeing some (or all) of the manuscript, rejected it.
For my part, I have wonderful clients that I work with, but I’m always looking to fill gaps in my schedule (check out my Services). Networking and applying to different opportunities comes with the territory, but so does rejection.
Sometimes, you apply to an amazing proofreading position but they go with someone else. Sometimes you submit your article to a magazine, but it’s not accepted. Sometimes you apply to promote a product on your blog, but are denied. And sometimes you query your manuscript to one or more agents/publishers and are rejected or worse, hear nothing back at all.
For lack of a better turn of phrase, rejection sucks.
However, the way we deal with the rejection is I think what makes us stronger and more successful in the end. We can use those rejections to learn something about the process, our work, or ourselves.
I don’t mean let’s put a positive spin on all bad things and that the world is all sunshine and roses.
Rejection can hurt, and we should acknowledge that, especially when we’ve put our heart into a submission or are really excited about an opportunity.
Be sad for a bit if that’s what’s needed. But don’t wallow in it.
What can we learn from this experience to make the next one better? Or, fingers crossed, a successful one?
Take their feedback, if they offer any, and use it as an advantage.
A note on this, their feedback is from their perspective for their business/audience. Use the feedback that feels right for your situation and your goals.
If they don’t offer any feedback at all or are rude in any way, you know you didn’t miss an opportunity–they did!
If you’re not sure how next to proceed, get someone else to read your work: a beta-reader, an editor, or a proofreader (hi!). An extra set of eyes that are less involved with the creative process of your work might be able to give you the edge you need.
I hope this was helpful. Best of luck!
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